My friend, Brandi, posted this the other day, and it hits me right on the head too. I would just like to say "what she said." I am up for the challenge as well...
For those of you who know me I’ve dated quite a few boys in my 26 years of life. My dad has always joked that I was on the “catch and release program”; as soon as I would catch a boy I’d throw him right on back and start fishing for the next one. You could go so far as to say I’m a master angler.
Not all these relationships were short term either, many lasted 2 or 3 years but it was inevitable that I’d always find something wrong and the relationship would end.
And then it hit me….maybe it’s not them, maybe it’s me?! (Oh no surely that couldn’t be the case. I’m like Mary Poppins, practically perfect in every way! Ok, maybe that description is a little off base.)
After being smacked with the realization that I’ve got issues I took another punch when I recognized that I really needed to start owning up to them and and addressing them. Maybe if I could stop looking for the perfect man and instead become the type of person I’m looking for I would be able to find someone who complements me as a partner.
We all tend to surround ourselves with like-minded people. Wouldn’t that mean I should be able to find the type of relationship I want if I start being the type of person I want to be around? This includes flaws and all. I always thought I needed to put my best foot forward when starting a relationship and that I could only let my flaws show after I had established a serious commitment. Now I’m starting to think it makes more sense to just let it all hang out right away so I can see if people are up to the challenge from the beginning!
So, with that I’ve decided to look at being single as more of a self-challenge than a default stage in life. Can I withstand the anxiety and uncertainty of being a 26-year-old single and hold out for a relationship that is worth committing to?
I think I’m up for the challenge
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